Getting close and personal with a Scorpio man can seem like an impossible task. Initially, the Scorpio presents himself as distant, intense and judgmental. He is naturally distrusting and takes his time warming up to a woman he is pursuing.
Early in the relationship it can be difficult to know whether or not a Scorpio man is actually interested in a particular woman. (As long as he is calling and making plans to see her, it is a sign he'd like to get to know her better.) If a woman is patient, the ice will eventually be broken and he will warm up. When this occurs, she will find the Scorpio to be loyal, passionate and devoted.
To Win His Heart
The Scorpio man is attracted to a strong, independent, confident woman. A woman can charm a Scorpio if she can keep a secret, stay faithful and have a healthy respect for his privacy. The Scorpio also values honesty. A woman who doesn't fake emotions, portray herself one way when she's really something else and is not afraid to be herself around him at all times has the best chance of winning his heart.
She shouldn't waste her time trying to pry personal information out of a him. Scorpio is distrustful of new acquaintances. Although he has numerous secrets, he will share them when he feels comfortable. Early on, it is best to ask general questions about his favorite movie, food or sport.
Known for his firm opinions, a Scorpio doesn't feel the need to "sugar coat" anything and believes in telling it like it is. If a woman is overly sensitive, his behavior can appear overly critical and cause hurt feelings. Any woman in a relationship with a Scorpio needs to realize that when he says things that sting, he is only being honest.
What to Avoid
The Scorpio man admires a woman who is in control of herself. That means any woman who is looking for a commitment should avoid excessive eating or drinking. She shouldn't feel the need to share all her secrets. The Scorpio will run from a woman who bares her soul. To keep his attention, she should never reveal everything about herself, particularly early in the relationship.
Don't be overbearing, forceful or nag. The Scorpio values his emotional space. If he is in a bad mood and doesn't feel like talking, a woman should respect his feelings and not force him. Her time is better spent with another activity until his mood changes.
The Scorpio man can become jealous, especially when he cares deeply for a woman. When he is in love, he considers a woman to be a part of him. For a lasting relationship, she must learn how to manage his jealousy and understand that he is being protective. Instead of becoming angry when a Scorpio shows jealously or possessiveness, a woman should act grateful and flattered.
To win the heart of a Gemini man read How To Capture the Heart of a Gemini Man.
Sources:
- Mark S. Husson, Love Scopes: What Astrology Knows About You and the Ones You Love, Hay House April 2009.
- Liz Greene, Astrology for Lovers, Weiser Books, February 2009.
- Ophira Edut and Tali Edut, The Astro Twins' Love Zodiac: The Essential Astrology Guide for Women, Sourcebooks Casablanca, November 2008.
- Phyllis F. Mitz M.A., Astrology's Secrets to Hot Romance: How to find True Compatibility and the One Who's Right For You, HCI, January 2007.
- Jenni Kosarin, The Everything Love Signs Book: Use Astrology to Find Your Perfect Mate, Adams Media, January 2004.
Danielle McGinnis - Danielle McGinnis is the mother of a college freshman and full-time freelance writer.
